What People Say About Parents Who Sleep Train - Pt. 3

Myth Number Three: “You’re teaching your baby that they can’t rely on you.”

This judgment (and it is always said with a heaping amount of judgment) builds off of last week’s sentiment that you are somehow ignoring your baby’s needs by helping them learn to sleep independently. People who ascribe to this belief are convinced that you are teaching your baby that their needs don’t matter, and that you won’t respond when they need you.

In fact, they may even believe that your baby is going to become hopeless, that they will be so convinced that you aren’t going to meet their needs that they will cease to tell you what they want or need, forever.

I have a few thoughts about this.

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What People Say About Parents Who Sleep Train - Pt. 2

Myth Number Two: “You shouldn’t have had kids if you wanted to sleep.”

I know, I know—I make the same exact face every time I encounter this comment! What even? 

People need sleep. Period. This need does not magically dissipate the moment you become a parent, though you may find yourself getting less of it these days.

And it’s true that in many cases parents are able to function on a minuscule amount of sleep, but you know, I think we need to suss out exactly what it means to function.

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What People Say About Parents Who Sleep Train - Pt. 1

When they think of sleep training, they probably imagine that you’re putting your baby in the crib and closing the door for at least twelve hours, no matter what.

“But what if your baby poops?”

“What if your baby vomits?”

“What if your baby is in pain?”

“What if your baby is hungry?”

But the question no one ever asks is, “What if your baby is tired?,” even though sleep is also a necessity, and even though babies also cry when they are sleepy.

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Why Birth Workers Should Stop Beating The “Intuition” Drum

With the prevalence of anxiety related to pregnancy and parenthood, it’s not hard to understand the seemingly continuous stream of questions that flood the online parenting pages.

What is a little confusing is the reverberating “trust your gut” that seems to find its way into every one of these threads.

But what happens when you don’t have an inclination toward a specific solution, or when you can’t tell if the voice you’re hearing is your intuition or your anxiety talking?

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Complementary Perinatal Care Series: Calm Birth Meditation

This week in our Complementary Perinatal Care Series, Amy Czadzeck from To The Moon & Back shares with us about her Calm Birth meditation practice in Gloversville, New York. Keep reading to learn about what Calm Birth meditation is and how it may impact your pregnancy and birth experience!

So, what is Calm Birth meditation? 

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Bottle-feeding? Let's Pace It!

Paced bottle-feeding is a topic of much interest, particularly in the breastfeeding community, as parents try to navigate offering expressed milk in conjunction with feeding at the breast directly.

The Infant Feeding Project recently shared about pace-feeding on Instagram (@theinfantfeedingproject). Today we are going to build on that with a video demonstrating both how and why pace-feeding is practiced, and how it may benefit both breastfeeding and non-breastfeeding families alike!

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Complementary Perinatal Care Series: Reiki Healing

According to the International Association of Reiki Professionals, Reiki is a “spiritual healing art.” It is neither based on belief nor suggestion, and while it does require the practitioner to place hands on you, it is also not massage therapy.

Like massages, though, Reiki is one of many avenues of additional, complementary care people may pursue during the perinatal period as they seek comfort and relief from common stressors that accompany this transitional time of life.

Today, a local Reiki Healer & Instructor joins us on the blog to share a little more about what Reiki is and how it may benefit expectant parents.

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Let's Talk About Sleep, Ba-by!

By now, you're probably aware of just how interested people are in infant sleep. Heck, maybe you're obsessed with it, too! I mean, it makes sense seeing as you now have a newborn dictating when and how much sleep you get—often on an erratic and nonsensical schedule they clearly made up themselves, without any adult guidance.

But when people suggest that infants should be sleeping through the night, or equate good sleep with being a "good baby," they really do a disservice to new parents—and reveal how little they actually know about typical infant sleep.

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One Mom, Three Babies, Three Different Stories

There are many different viewpoints on the ways we should raise our babies: co-sleep vs. crib-sleep, rock to sleep vs. put to bed awake, babywear vs. strollers/bouncers/etc.

We all have opinions and though our opinions may be great for some, we must remember that every family and every baby is different.

One of the many topics that hits close to home for this mama is formula vs. breastfeeding. This is because it is NOT always that simple.

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Preparing Your Pets For Siblinghood

As the time approaches to bring your new baby home, you may be nervous about how your first baby—your fur-baby—will handle the new addition. You love them, afterall, and don’t want them to feel replaced or resent their new family member.

We get it. Luckily, there are a few things you can do to help make this transition easier on everybody...

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Chiropractic Care For Your Newborn

"What is chiropractic care? Should my baby see a chiropractor? Is chiropractic care safe for newborns?"

These are just a few of the questions we receive here at Vocal Birth Doula Services from new parents when presented with chiropractic care as one of the many options available to them for caring for their new babies.

Today, Dr. Ashley Seaver of Spa City Chiropractic joins us to answer these common questions (and more!) about chiropractic care for infants.

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Doula Top 5: Apps For Pregnancy & Beyond

Apps often make our lives easier, consolidating a mess of lists into a single magical, clickable icon we can tap time and again to keep things organized. They have apps for everything these days! Grocery lists, calendars, period trackers—and yes, even apps to use during pregnancy and postpartum.

But with so many options, you may find it overwhelming trying to find the right apps for you and your family. Let us help!

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