Posts tagged parenting philosophies
What People Say About Parents Who Sleep Train - Pt. 3

Myth Number Three: “You’re teaching your baby that they can’t rely on you.”

This judgment (and it is always said with a heaping amount of judgment) builds off of last week’s sentiment that you are somehow ignoring your baby’s needs by helping them learn to sleep independently. People who ascribe to this belief are convinced that you are teaching your baby that their needs don’t matter, and that you won’t respond when they need you.

In fact, they may even believe that your baby is going to become hopeless, that they will be so convinced that you aren’t going to meet their needs that they will cease to tell you what they want or need, forever.

I have a few thoughts about this.

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What People Say About Parents Who Sleep Train - Pt. 2

Myth Number Two: “You shouldn’t have had kids if you wanted to sleep.”

I know, I know—I make the same exact face every time I encounter this comment! What even? 

People need sleep. Period. This need does not magically dissipate the moment you become a parent, though you may find yourself getting less of it these days.

And it’s true that in many cases parents are able to function on a minuscule amount of sleep, but you know, I think we need to suss out exactly what it means to function.

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What People Say About Parents Who Sleep Train - Pt. 1

When they think of sleep training, they probably imagine that you’re putting your baby in the crib and closing the door for at least twelve hours, no matter what.

“But what if your baby poops?”

“What if your baby vomits?”

“What if your baby is in pain?”

“What if your baby is hungry?”

But the question no one ever asks is, “What if your baby is tired?,” even though sleep is also a necessity, and even though babies also cry when they are sleepy.

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I Wish I Had Known About Postpartum Doulas

I had no delusions of being a “perfect” parent, but I did have plans that didn’t pan out—and not because they were far-fetched, just because I didn’t have the type of support I needed.

I didn’t know then that I could hire someone who...

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The Forgotten “B” of Attachment Parenting

Although Attachment Parenting(AP) is not a new concept, it does seem to have picked up steam in the realm of mainstream parenting over the past few years. Minivans everywhere are adorned with decals that declare there is a "breastfeeding, baby-wearing, bed-sharing mama" on board.

In fact, when you read the title of this post, those three things are likely the first (perhaps even the only?) B's that came to mind. But there is a lot more to AP than breastfeeding, baby-wearing, and bed-sharing.

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